The affair has ended, and this time it's over for good. Maybe you decided to end it, or the outcome wasn't by choice. But the guilt is still ever present.

The affair is over. It had to be. And you know that.

But knowing it is over and moving on are two different things. Because even now — weeks or months later — he is still there. In moments where thoughts drift. In the space between falling asleep and sleeping. In the middle of ordinary days when it seems everything around you reminds you of him.

Let’s be honest, EMDR therapy doesn’t exactly seem to make sense initially. Eye movements? Trauma processing? Something about the brain? It can feel like stepping into unfamiliar territory with no map. However, once you understand how EMDR works, it’s like putting the pieces of the puzzle together.

What Brainspotting is, what people commonly want to know before trying it, and how it may fit within a broader psychotherapy process.

Have you ever felt like your anxiety lives in your body - tight chest, racing thoughts, tension that doesn’t go away? Maybe everything looks fine on the outside, but inside, your nervous system is stuck on high alert.

If you’ve ever felt like talk therapy just scratches the surface, especially when it comes to deep emotional pain or trauma, you’re not alone. Many women I work with have spent years trying to feel better, only to sense that something still isn’t fully healed. That’s what led me to Brainspotting.

There’s been a noticeable—and long overdue—shift in conversations about perimenopause. More women are sharing their experiences, more healthcare providers are learning to recognize the signs, and more articles are covering the hormonal changes that come with this stage of life. However, what’s often overlooked is how perimenopause affects a woman’s emotional life.

You know the feeling.

You’ve prepared. You’re qualified. You care deeply about what you’re about to do. A presentation, an interview, a performance, a conversation that matters.

And then, just as you begin—something inside you pulls the brake.

You had plans today. Maybe not anything huge, but enough to give the day structure. A few tasks on your list to take care of—or maybe even a moment set aside for yourself. You were looking forward to checking off some boxes, staying on track at your pace, and feeling like you were keeping up. And then something happened. An unexpected call. A crisis at work. A child who needed you. Or maybe it was one thing after another, slowly interrupting the day.

If you've ever felt trapped by unwanted thoughts or stuck in a loop of repetitive behaviors you can't quite explain, you're not alone. Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) often hides in plain sight—especially in high-achieving women who appear to be holding it all together.

Let’s talk about that moment when a thought pops into your head and you immediately wonder, “Why would I even think that?” Whether it’s violent, sexual, or just completely out of character, an intrusive thought can feel distressing—but you’re not alone, and you’re not broken.

You get things done. You show up. You manage the day-to-day and keep everything running, maybe not perfectly, but well enough.

But under the surface, your mind rarely lets up.

You’re not just thinking ahead, you’re bracing for what might go wrong.…

You’re scrolling headlines, listening to a podcast, or catching snippets of the news, and before you’ve even processed what’s being said, your body tenses. Maybe it’s a spike of anxiety. A knot in your stomach. A heaviness you can’t quite name that lingers long after you’ve shut the screen or walked away.

If you find yourself overthinking every word you say, replaying conversations long after they’ve ended, or avoiding certain social situations altogether—you’re not alone. Social anxiety can make even small social interactions feel like high-stakes performances.

You’ve always been the one to hold everything together. The planning, the decisions, the moving parts, the emotional labor, it’s long been your role. And even when the weight was heavy, you carried it. You made sure nothing slipped through the cracks…

You want to help. But you don’t want to say the wrong thing. You’re not alone.

Anxiety is more common than you might think. Around 1 in 5 adults in the U.S. experience an anxiety disorder every year — many silently. Whether it’s generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder, or social anxiety, the impact can be overwhelming—and knowing how to support a loved one isn’t always clear.

You tell yourself you’re fine. That the tightness in your shoulders is just from sleeping wrong. That the constant stomach discomfort is just something you ate. That the exhaustion will pass once things calm down. But deep down, you know—things never really calm down.